🙌 Learn to Respond

🙏🏻Learn to Respond, Not React 🗣️

The main thing to learn is mindfulness and the pause. If the only thing you take from this is the ‘pause’, that’s enough! Don’t forget to fucking pause! Thank me later 🙌

Mindfulness means watching ourselves when something happens that might normally upset us or trigger some kind of emotional reaction. Pay close attention to how our minds react.

Then pause (don’t forget the fucking pause).

We don’t have to act immediately, just because we have an internal reaction. We can pause, not act, breathe. We can watch this urge to act irrationally arise, then let it go away. Sometimes that takes a few seconds, but for fuck sake wait!

Pause (remember this!)

Watch the reaction go away.

Now consider what the most intelligent, compassionate response might be. What can we do that will help our relationship, teach, build a better team or partnership, make the situation better, calm everyone down, including ourselves?

At first, you might mess up. But in time, you’ll learn to watch this reaction, and you’ll get better at the pause (the pause is your best friend).

Don’t stress if you mess up — just resolve to be more mindful when it happens next time. Take note of what happened to trigger your reaction, and pay attention when something like that happens again.

Be mindful, pause (!) then consider a thoughtful, compassionate response.

But if they really deserve it, tell them to go fuck themselves!

Claire - Sentient in Harmony 🌹x

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